A conversation to set clear expectations of what you’re looking for should take place early on when you first start to talk to a person so the two of you can be on the same page. Yet, unrealistic goals can end a potential relationship before it even starts.

Relationship Ultimatum One Week After Talking

  • It’s one thing to give a person an ultimatum to decide whether they want to be in an exclusive relationship with you when the two of you been talking on a regular for about 3 months. However, it’s unrealistic to give an ultimatum in less than a week, when the person is likely to still be trying know you more, since they haven’t spent much time around you.

Demands To Become A Top Priority Almost Overnight In Their Life

  • If an individual wants to know more about you, they should be able to find a way to set aside some time for you, no matter how busy they might be. Still, you can’t expect everyone you initially meet to make it a priority overnight for their life to evolve around you. I say that because most people got key friends and family they have been knowing for years already before you entered the picture.

What are some other unrealistic goals that you feel some people set when they first start talking to someone?

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9 thoughts on “Unrealistic”

    1. Yes, because two things can be true… a person can be interested in knowing you more, but not in a rush to be in a relationship quickly…

  1. Great insights!
    Can we talk about the standards people set on potential partners; and ticking off their checklists when they are met and abandoning them when they are not. Also, many tend to compare previous failed relationships to an oncoming one and expecting them to pass the bar.

    1. Thanks for leaving a comment.. Can you explain what you mean about abandoning them when they are not met more?

      1. A case where high expectations don’t match reality and disappointment and dissatisfaction creeps in. Then one party decides to leave.

      2. I do believe in leaving a relationship if you’re dissatisfied in it way more often than you’re happy, since that is the opposite reason why most people get in a relationship. Also, can you provide an example of high expectations not matching reality, just so I can make sure we’re on the same page about expectations?

      3. True. It’s pointless to stay in a relationship if you’re dissatisfied, especially if both of you can’t consensually agree on certain irreducible minimums.

        By high expectations I mean anything that is beyond what the real world offers. If you are keen enough, you’d notice that we receive picture perfect cues from the Internet, Social media, Hollywood etc on what and how we should live life and handle our relationships. When we project that onto our own lives, dissatisfaction ensues.(occasioned by the surging rates of depression and anxiety across the globe)
        In the real world,there are good days and bad days. Your partner won’t be like Leonardo DiCaprio or your favourite porn star. And that’s okay.

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