Time For A Job Change

Your current full time job, like everything else in life will never be perfect. However, there are some things that I feel are deal breakers and key signs that it’s probably time for a job change.

1. Not being Compensated Fairly

The average person you ask, including myself will tell you that they probably should be making more at their current job. Yet, when you don’t feel like you’re being compensated fairly and have brought it up to your manager, based on whatever is the average pay of your position in the job market, it’s time to look for a new job.

2. Hate Going To Work When It’s Time

It’s one thing to had a vacation and not be looking forward to your first day back at the job. However, it’s another thing when you literally hate going to work every single day. Furthermore, this can impact your performance in doing your job in a negative way as well.

3. Not Challenge Or Stretch On A Regular

If you’re not being challenge or stretch on a regular at your job that’s an indication that you’re responsibilities aren’t growing and if your responsibilities not growing through the years, it will impact your earning power in making more money at that job in a new position opening or at a new job, especially if you’ve been doing the exact same thing(s) for years.

To Work Or Not To Work?

Some women believe in their man being the only one between the two of them that works in the household. Furthermore, some guys don’t believe in their woman working as well. However, for women that do seek a man that pays all the bills I’ll like for them to be aware of the following:

1. Some men will treat you more like their child than his equal

  • There are always exceptions to the rule in any situation. Yet, when it’s only one person paying the bills in a relationship that person usually will have the only and final say in any key household decisions.

2. Can give the guy control over you in the relationship

  • Some men like to take care of all the bills because it gives them more control. For instance, some guys require their lady to consult with them first before taking any money out of their joint bank account(s) that might be needed, even if it was just $40 dollars.

3. Can possibly make the guy feel more incline to do whatever he desires

  • Most men aren’t able to have their lady not work these days, even if he didn’t want her to. Therefore, some guys that can afford it tend to do whatever they want in the relationship and never willing to even meet their partner half way sometime, mainly because they know the lady is dependent on them and love the lifestyle that they provide so much that’s she won’t be quick to leave, even if she’s unhappy.

Starting Your Day Off Right

It’s important to try and start your day off right when you wake up, especially since how you feel when you first wake up usually will set the tone and is a good indicator on how the rest of your day will end up. As a result, I’ve listed a few things to do and the importance of them below that should help you start your day off on the right track.

1. Get Enough Restful Sleep

  • Not getting your proper rest at night can contribute to you waking up in the morning feeling tired and groggy, which can negatively impact the rest of your day.

2. Practice Gratitude

  • Instead of starting your day focusing on what you currently don’t have in life, take some time to appreciate what you do have, along with being mindful that things can always be worst, no matter how bad things may currently be for you, since their are some people in the world that would consider your bad day as a good day.

3. Meditate for at least 5 minutes daily

  • Meditating can help you to train your mind and emotions, which can influence how you react to challenges that you may face during your day. Furthermore, it’s been proven to help reduce stress and increase happiness.

Should You Currently Be Dating?

The reality in the world that we live in today is that some women just go out on dates not really interested in a guy, but for the free meal, concert, or game ticket he’s providing. Also, you got some guys that just take a lady out with no intentions of staying in contact with her after that night, no matter how great the date went.

However, for the people that do date with a purpose of potentially meeting their soulmate, here are a few signs in my opinion that indicate you probably shouldn’t be dating someone new right now.

1. Still make your Ex a priority in your life

  • It’s natural to care for your ex well-being and not want anything bad to happen to them in life, even long after the breakup. However, you shouldn’t be making your ex a priority still, while trying to date someone new, especially when you consistently prioritize your ex over the new person you’re dating.

2. In a Bad Space Financially

  • Most people never have their money exactly how they would like for it to be at in life. However, if spending 50 dollars on a date will be a financial burden in you potentially not having something like gas money or money for lunch the upcoming week, I recommend that you take a break from dating and focus on getting yourself in a better financial space first.

3. Not Happily Single

  • When a person isn’t happily single they’re more likely to stay in a toxic relationship when they do get with someone, just to say they’re in a relationship, oppose to ending it and moving on when all the evidence shows that the other person is subtracting way more than adding in their life.

Good Time To Call?

Have you ever planned on calling someone and asked the individual in advance when will it be a good time to call? If yes, you probably asked that question so when you do call the person will have your undivided attention and you will have their full attention as well.

Yet, I’ve learned through the years that everybody doesn’t have the same definition of a “Good Time To Call”. As a result, if either of the following apply, then it’s probably not a good time to tell someone to call you back.

1. Constantly having to respond to someone else in a separate conversation

This is inconsiderate to do, especially if the person asked you in advance for a good time to call and reached out to you during that time frame. Also, whether it’s true or not, this can make the person you’re on the phone with feel like you’re not really wanting to talk to them.

2. Excessive Background Noise

Nobody wants to constantly have to repeat the same thing over to one person. However, when you’re trying to have a conversation with someone over the phone at a place like a game or at a sports bar, this will usually be the case, since there is so many other people either cheering or talking in the background.

Consequences To Actions

We are free to choose whatever we want to do in life, but not free from the consequences of those actions. Therefore, it’s imperative that we don’t make important decisions solely based off of how we feel at that certain time but instead factor in how it might impact us short and long term.

For example, if you don’t like your current job and it’s your single source of income that you got coming in monthly to pay for expenses and you can’t afford to miss one or two bi-weekly paychecks in a row, it’s not wise to quit that job before you’re officially offered a new job opportunity, no matter how much you currently hate it and ready for a change.

Finding a new job that you want might take longer than plan. Thus, no need to get behind on bills when this easily can be avoided by showing patience while you’re looking for something better and new for work.

Last, you possibly might end up settling for a new job that you really don’t want, but have to take because you need the money and basically end up looking for another job as soon as you start the new one because you didn’t look at things from the a big picture view and waited for the right opportunity to come along.

Dating Pool

I’ve heard some people say before that the dating pool becomes smaller as you get older, which I definitely think is true, but that is a good thing in my eyes since I take that as a sign that you’re just more aware of the key qualities you’re looking for a potential partner to have.

For example, the average person in their early twenties got an idea of what they want to do in life, but not really certain, since this is usually their first time living on their own, along with making key decisions. Also, this applies for them when it comes to dating in trying to figure things out as well.

Yet, the average person in their late twenties and early thirties knows what key qualities they are looking for their potential partner to have, mainly since they have been on their own for a while in life and gone through and experience some things.

As a result, the person is now able to save themselves time and easily weed out individuals they initially talk to in person or on a dating site like Tinder, without even needing to exchange numbers or go on a date with them. Furthermore, most of us will agree, including myself that we dated someone in our past while we were younger that we wouldn’t even waste our time in talking to now.

Misery Loves Company

There is an old saying most of you have probably heard before, which is that misery loves company. Thus, it’s very important to distinguish if a person has your best interest at heart before you value their opinion and take advise from them, considering you are the one that has to live with the consequences of your decisions and not them.

Therefore, I’m about to discuss a couple of things to look out for that people usually do on a regular who really aren’t joyful that you’re winning or on the right path in life and doing better than them.

If a person never seem to be genuine happy or ever have anything nice to say when you achieve a major milestone in life, whether that involves you getting a promotion at your job, earning your masters degree, meeting your soul mate and getting engage, etc. these are definitely red flags. I say that because someone who has your best interest at heart should be one of your biggest fans when these type of things take place in your life and very proud, as you should be for them if the roles were reverse.

Last, an individual that always seems to point out flaws in others when someone else is speaking in high regard of the other person, even if they need to go back and find a moment that happen years in the past and the person has done so many positive things since then. This is a major red flag to me because it’s a sign of jealousy and if they do it consistency when it comes to others, rest assured they do the same to you when your name is brought up around them and you’re not present.

How to Get Ahead In Life

If you’re a person that feel like you never seem to ever be able to get ahead in life, no matter what you do, I would strongly suggest that you take a close look and evaluate the people that you talk with and are around daily in your free time. It’s important to do this because if the people don’t have similar aspirations and goals in life, they can actually be hindering you from progressing, without you really recognizing it.

For instance, you can have a great job and be making great money but if the people in your close circle are needing to borrow money from you often and not paying you back fully, if at all, that can be a key factor why your bank account(s) never seem to really increase, no matter how much you continue to move up the ladder in your career.

However, if you’re around people often that inspire, motivate, and encourage you they will expand your horizon on your way of thinking, along with introducing you to new and different way of doing things that probably will help you to get ahead in life for a change.

Furthermore, if the people in your close circle motivate you then that means they already got something or things you hope to obtain, whether that is a new house they just bought, having a successful side business, being in a good space financially, or just being a positive person in general.

Finally, evaluating what you’re reading and watching on TV, Youtube, Netflix, etc. on a regular is just as important. There is nothing wrong with doing those things for enjoyment, but you want to make sure that you’re learning something that you can apply in your daily life sometime as well, since having balance is essential in everything we do.

Leaving The Nest

I don’t have any kids yet, mainly because I rather be married first, but I definitely want to be able to help and give any child of mines an even better head start in life once they become an adult than what I had. This is usually the goal of all parents, but as in everything in life, things don’t always go as plan and sometime parents can actually be hurting their kid when they think that they’re helping.

A great example is letting your kid continue to stay with you after they are done with school and working. If your child is saving a significant amount of their money monthly to buy a house or putting it to an emergency fund this can be a great thing, However, if your child is just blowing most of their money monthly this can be a very bad thing, especially if he/she is living a lifestyle with you that they wouldn’t be able to sustain on their own.

The key reason I say this is because if your child is living a much better lifestyle with you and doing whatever they want with their money they will be less motivated to ever move out. Second, they probably will struggle when they do move out, whether living alone or with someone in a relationship who wants them to help out on the bills, if they’ve become accustom to doing whatever they want monthly with their pay money.

Last, if a child does stay with their parents for years after school and been working the majority of that time when they move out, but got nothing to show for it, I do feel the parents fail in helping their kid get that important head start in life.