A question I’m often asked by people who people who get to know me is why is it that I’m single, which my reply is usually that I haven’t met that special young lady that I see a long term future with as my potential wife one day and feel will make a great mother to my future child , along with the chemistry being natural and not force between us.
Yet, a lot of people unfortunately in society today end up in relationships for convenience instead of for the right reasons. A key contributing factor in my opinion for this happening is that most people sadly aren’t in a good space in life, especially financially. My criteria of an individual being in a good space in life by the way is someone that that was happily single before they even got in a romantic relationship and already living their life to the fullest and not waiting for someone else to bring them happiness.
Also, an individual that doesn’t need to be in a romantic relationship unless they can see a long term future with who they’re with. Next, my last criteria is a person that has an emergency fund of money in an insured FDIC bank and stocks/bonds with a broker like Merrill Edge or TD Ameritrade to take care of their money expenses for at least three to six months if they were to encounter a financial hardship with no income coming into the household.
Last, if you’re a person that is in a current relationship mainly for convenience and possibly not happy about where you are in life just remember that it’s never too late to start making changes in your present life to start building for where you want to be in the future.
I’m sure everyone has heard someone in a relationship, especially if the person is married, complain about something they wished their significant other still did that they use to at the start of their relationship. Unfortunately, this is quite common for most people to get too comfortable in a relationship with someone that they’ve been with for a while and start to take the person for granted.
Thus, it’s very important to be consistent while you’re with someone and not to stop doing things that your significant other like, that possibly heavily contributed to the person wanting to be in a relationship with you in the first place. Furthermore, this is why it’s critical to be yourself at the start of the relationship and not try and portray who you think the person that you’re courting wants you to be, like you probably see often on social media sites like Twitter and Instagram, when that isn’t you so the person can make an inform decision on whether they want to get to know you more or decide that the two of you aren’t compatible, which you rather learn earlier than later if that is truly the case anyhow.
Last, I recommend that any couple that have possibly lost some of their relationship fire to start sitting down once a week with their significant other to give each other relationship grades of an A,B,C,D, or a F and be able to explain why. As a result, this is a way for the two of you to let each other know what you like that was done that week, along with a chance to hold each other accountable and receive constructive feedback on improvement opportunities to hopefully help your relationship continue to grow even more.
I’m a firm believer that the people we interact with daily in our lives, even on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter are either an asset or a liability to us. Therefore, if given the option of the two, I’m sure most people will agree with me that they prefer the person that they view as an asset. Yet, a lot of people unfortunately have friends and family members that they’re very close with, along with a significant other that is a liability to them.
One key sign that a friend or family member is a liability to you is if you find yourself having to help them with something on a regular, but they’re hardly ever available or make you a priority when you need them just for something small to help with. Thus, you probably need to love them from a distance a little while and stop doing most of the things, if not all, that you do for them often until they learn to appreciate it, especially if you’re addressed the issue multiple times with them with no change behavior already.
Furthermore, a key sign that your significant other is a liability is if you find yourself less happy and more stress because of what they do or don’t on a regular, than you was before they came into your life. Also, if you was doing better before they came into your life, especially financially, that is a red flag that the person is a liability. As a result, I highly recommend that you reevaluate your relationship with a significant other under either one or both of these circumstances.
One of the key things I love in life, which makes the world great in my opinion, is that everyone doesn’t like the same things or think alike. Yet, I’ve discovered on so many separate occasions that a number of disagreements between close family members or friends stems from one side having the mindset that they shouldn’t have to tell the person they have an issue with what is wrong and just assume the other individual should just know.
However, that is definitely not the type of attitude you want to have and I’m about to explain why. One of my golden rules in life is to “Treat others how I want to be treated” Therefore, just like I’m hoping you wouldn’t want someone that you care about to have an issue with you and not let you know about it, why would you want to do that to another person?
Also, don’t go telling other people about the issue you have with an individual on social media sites like Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter when you haven’t taken the time to address the issue with the source, especially if you know where they live to meet with them in person to talk or have the person number to give them a call about it. I will ask the question once again, which is ” Do you want somebody to do that to you?”
Last, it’s important to have a discussion with the individual that you’re mad or disappointed in with the intent to listen and understand instead of listening to reply because the two of you might of been looking at things from different perspectives, where neither one of you is actually right or wrong and the other person honestly might not of had any clue of what they did before you told them.
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton
As humans we all have our strengths and weaknesses. Yet, some of us are able to discover and recognize key strengths we possess quicker than others in life.
For example, I’ve always been a guy that male and female of mines have often told me about how they admire how I’m always in a positive mood and how they love my infectious personality, while being a friend they don’t mind coming to and value my opinions on relationship and life advise.
Therefore, when one of my friends initially brought up the idea about me starting a blog I just laughed at the idea. However, when even more people randomly started recommending that I create one that I had given advise to, I decided to finally take the idea serious so I can try and impact even more people daily lives in a positive way.
As a result, I plan to post a weekly blog moving moving forward on my keys to happiness I believe in and live by daily, related to topics on love, true friendship, family, and life in general that I hope everyone will find insightful and helpful in unlocking your true happiness if you haven’t found it just yet.