Allow, Accept, and Tolerate

When it comes to relationships people do what we allow, accept, and tolerate from them. As a result, it’s important to have consequences to actions, so they have an incentive to do the right thing. Furthermore, if a person isn’t willing to do right then you should consider helping them to appreciate your absence.

Cheating Partner

  • If you have a partner that has cheated on you multiple times there is a good chance that person doesn’t respect you. However, the root cause of that disrespect may arise from the individual not being afraid of you leaving them. Thus, you got to stop giving unlimited loyalty to them when they consistently give you limited loyalty in return.

Money Tree To Friends/Family

  • A person shouldn’t need to borrow money from you on a consistent basis, unless they are living out of their budget or don’t have one. In either case, their bad planning should not be your emergency. Therefore, you want to say NO to them sometime, even if you do have the extra money to give so you don’t handicap and make them think it’s alright to not be responsible and just do whatever they want with their money knowing you will always be there to bail them out.

What is something that you have allowed, accepted, or tolerated from another individual in the past that you wished you never did?

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Your Loans Are My Responsibility

The average student graduates from a four year college with student loan debt of about $28,000. Some students become eligible to have their loan debt forgiven while others are left with the full amount to pay. As a result, I plan to pay the full amount if my child has loan debt after graduation.

Head Start In Life

  • Even though I’ve had a great life so far, I want to make sure that if I ever have kids I do my best to ensure they have an even better life than me. The key for that to happen in my opinion is to give them good exposure to more things at a younger age and not have them to start their adult life off with a lot of debt. Thus, I’ll feel like I failed them if they graduate in 4-5 years with almost 30k of debt.

Resentment Can Be Created

  • To avoid a lot of loan debt, it’s usually too late for a kid to start saving up on their own in high school when they’re able to work. Furthermore, the average kid not thinking about or got a way to save for college while in elementary school. Thus, a teen can sometime have resentment towards their parents when they feel the debt stems from bad planning by their parents, when it was already a 50% chance they might go to college one day when they were born.

Do you feel parents should help pay off student loans of their kids after graduation if they’re able to?

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Personal Growth

It’s important in life to have people in your inner circle that care about you. Yet, it’s key to have people that will not just tell you what you want to hear but what you need to hear as well.

In order to grow, a person has to come out of their comfort zone and be open to constructive criticism. However, it won’t take place if you just surround yourself with people that just tell you what you want to hear always.

As a result, you got to be around some individuals that know more than you and got no issue in calling you out when needed on a consistent basis.

What is something in your personal or professional life that you achieved by coming out of your comfort zone?

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Gambling On Potential

I hear people often complain about flaws of their partner that he/she was aware of early on when they first started dating. There are some things you might can have an influence on your partner to change that isn’t anything major. However, there are other things I wouldn’t advise gambling on potential with.

Don’t Want To Work

  • When your partner can’t seem to ever keep a steady job for whatever reason in the the years that you’ve known him/her, it wouldn’t be wise to get a new apartment of house with them and be dependent on their income every month.

Not Wanting Kids

  • If the person you’re dating has made it clear to you that they don’t want kids ever and having a child one day is a big priority for you, it’s probably best to end things over potentially investing 4-5 years in the relationship to not even change their mind.

What are some other things that you wouldn’t want to gamble on investing years with a partner on for them to never change?

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Respecting Your Partner Part II

I try and see things from more than one perspective always, along with being objective. As a result, I’m addressing men being disrespectful to their woman this week in this two part series.

Never Willing To Compromise

  • Some guys refuse to ever compromise, even though any successful relationship will evolve it happening sometime by both partners. Therefore, if it’s something that your lady ask you to do, be willing to put her first and oblige sometime.

Treating Your Lady Like Your Maid

  • Just because you got a lady that doesn’t mind and take pride in doing most of the household chores, you shouldn’t take advantage of her kindness by treating her like your personal maid. For instance, instead of being lazy and leaving your dirty clothes right next to the hamper, go ahead and put your clothes in it and not leave it as a task for her to do.

What are some other situations you can recall or heard about, that a man disrespected his lady by doing?

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Respecting Your Partner Part I

If you want respect in life, you got to be willing to give that same amount of respect to another individual. Some women struggle with this concept as much as men. Therefore, I’ll provided some examples below of women belittling their man and plan to address men doing the same to their woman next week.

Talking To A Grown Man Like He’s Your Child

  • Just like you don’t talk to an adult like you would a baby, you shouldn’t talk to a grown man like he’s your child and emasculate him, especially in front of his friends and family, even if he’s easy going and never stands up for himself. Furthermore, you should look at your man as your equal and not as you being his superior.

Reminding Him On Regular That You Make Way More Money

  • Any self respecting and hard working man is not going to let you disrespect him on a regular, if ever for that matter, by constantly demeaning him just because you might make significantly more money than he does. Also, the only man that a woman might keep around for a while with that type of attitude is a lazy man with no self respect.

What are some other situations you can recall or heard about, which a lady belittle her man?

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Tough Conversations

It can be hard for some to try and have a tough conversation with their manager, especially when it’s around something they feel could of been handle better by him or her. However, often times it’s not all about what you say, but how you say it and where.

Have The Discussion In Private First

  • There is nothing wrong to me in questioning your manager authority, but it’s best in my opinion to have that 1:1 conversation in private first. I say that because if the roles were reverse, the average person will want their manager to show them that same respect, oppose to bringing it up initially in a room with other people around.

Convey Your Concern(s) In Your Normal Speaking Tone

  • You should go into the meeting with your manager with an open mind, while being cognizant to try and not voice your concerns using a loud tone, since the message you want to communicate can easily get taken the wrong way with that approach. Also, be sure to get your manager perspective, because it might of been something you did unknowingly that triggered their response.

What are some tough conversations that you’ve had with your manager/supervisor before?

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Things Can Always Be Worst

So many of us in this world focus so much on what we don’t have, that we don’t take the time to appreciate what we do have. Also, no matter how bad you feel about your current life, there is somebody in this world that would love to trade places with you.

Unemployed Currently

  • A high number of people in this world don’t have a job currently. However, there is a lot of people fighting a serious illness that would love to have that as their biggest worry and have their health and strength back.

Material Things Don’t Always Equate To Happiness

  • Someone can have way less material things in life than another individual. Yet, if the person with less take the time to appreciate often what they do have, like a loving family, and the other individual is focusing most of their time on what they don’t have, the person with less material things will actually be more happy in life and probably envied by the other person if the two of them know each other.

What are some things that you’re currently worried about or got you a little down recently?

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Unrealistic Relationship Goals

A conversation to set clear expectations of what you’re looking for should take place early on when you first start to talk to a person so the two of you can be on the same page. Yet, unrealistic goals can end a potential relationship before it even starts.

Relationship Ultimatum One Week After Talking

  • It’s one thing to give a person an ultimatum to decide whether they want to be in an exclusive relationship with you when the two of you been talking on a regular for about 3 months. However, it’s unrealistic to give an ultimatum in less than a week, when the person is likely to still be trying know you more, since they haven’t spent much time around you.

Demands To Become A Top Priority Almost Overnight In Their Life

  • If an individual wants to know more about you, they should be able to find a way to set aside some time for you, no matter how busy they might be. Still, you can’t expect everyone you initially meet to make it a priority overnight for their life to evolve around you. I say that because most people got key friends and family they have been knowing for years already before you entered the picture.

What are some other unrealistic goals that you feel some people set when they first start talking to someone?

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