Tag: Dating

Assume

One of the things which makes the world great in my opinion is that everyone doesn’t like the same things or think alike. Yet, most disagreements between family members or friends happens when one person assume that everyone does think like them. However, that is definitely not the mindset you want to have, since it can lead to a lot of miscommunication that could be avoided.

  • Give Others The Respect You Want In Return

I’m hoping you wouldn’t want someone that you care about to have an issue with you and not let you know about it directly, but address the issue with a number of other people instead. Thus, why would you want to do that to another person?

  • Listen To Understand

If you do have a discussion with the individual that you’re mad or disappointed in, be sure to listen to with the intent to understand instead of listening to reply. This is important to do because the two of you might of been looking at things from different perspectives. As a result, neither one of you might actually be right or wrong and the other person honestly might not of had any clue of what they did before you told them.

Has there ever been a time where you initially assume someone intent in doing something to find out you was wrong after a conversation with them?

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First Date

Most guys goal when they ask a woman out on a first date is for her to have a good time with them so she’ll want to go out again. Yet, sometime there are things that guys don’t do, even if it was unintentional, that can have a woman not wanting to even go out once with them.

  • Know Key Things That She Likes To Do

A guy should know before planning out a first date what type of food the woman like, along with some activities she enjoy doing in her free time, mainly to increase his chances of her saying yes and having a great time while with him.

  • Inform Her In Advance

It’s important for a guy to let a woman know at least a day in advance, along with providing the time and what all he plan for the two of them to do on the date in my opinion so the woman doesn’t feel like she was just a last minute backup plan. Also, this helps to possibly give her time to change up some things on her schedule to go out on the date if she initially was busy.

Have you ever been ask to go out on a first date by a guy at the last minute? If yes. how did that make you feel at that time?

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Household Bills

There isn’t one right answer in terms of how monthly household bills should be split between a couple living together. The key thing is for the two of them to be on the same page with clear expectations establish. Thus, I’m simply giving my opinion on how I feel things should be divided below.

Our Yearly Salary Is About The Same

  • I consider marriage to be a partnership and not a sponsorship. Therefore, if we both got good jobs and make about the same yearly my expectations is for my partner and I to split all household bills 50/50 each month.

I Make Significantly More Than My Partner

  • A key motto of mines in life is to treat others like I want to be treated. Therefore, I can’t have my partner splitting the household bills with me 50/50 if I make way more than her, since I wouldn’t want her to do that to me. Furthermore, I want to make sure my partner still has money after bills are paid to purchase nice things. As a result, I got no issue in having an 80/20 split on bills for that to be the case.

Do you agree or disagree on how I feel monthly household expenses should be divided between a couple and why?

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What We Allow

When it comes to relationships people do what we allow, accept, and tolerate from them. As a result, it’s important to have consequences to actions, so they have an incentive to do the right thing. Furthermore, if a person isn’t willing to do right then you should consider helping them to appreciate your absence.

Cheating Partner

  • If you have a partner that has cheated on you multiple times there is a good chance that person doesn’t respect you. However, the root cause of that disrespect may arise from the individual not being afraid of you leaving them. Thus, you got to stop giving unlimited loyalty to them when they consistently give you limited loyalty in return.

Money Tree To Friends/Family

  • A person shouldn’t need to borrow money from you on a consistent basis, unless they are living out of their budget or don’t have one. In either case, their bad planning should not be your emergency. Therefore, you want to say NO to them sometime, even if you do have the extra money to give so you don’t handicap and make them think it’s alright to not be responsible and just do whatever they want with their money knowing you will always be there to bail them out.

What is something that you allow or allowed from another individual in the past that you wished you never did?

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Personal Growth

It’s important in life to have people in your inner circle that care about you. Yet, it’s key to have people that will not just tell you what you want to hear but what you need to hear as well for your personal growth.

Furthermore, in order to grow, a person has to come out of their comfort zone and be open to constructive criticism. However, it won’t take place if you just surround yourself with people that just know as much as you.

What is something in your life that you achieved by coming out of your comfort zone that helped with your personal growth?

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Gamble

I hear people often complain about flaws of their partner that he/she was aware of early on when they first started dating. There are some things you might can have an influence on your partner to change that isn’t anything major. However, there are other things I wouldn’t advise to gamble on potential with.

Don’t Want To Work

  • When your partner can’t seem to ever keep a steady job for whatever reason in the the years that you’ve known him/her, it wouldn’t be wise to get a new apartment of house with them and be dependent on their income every month.

Not Wanting Kids

  • If the person you’re dating has made it clear to you that they don’t want kids ever and having a child one day is a big priority for you, it’s probably best to end things over potentially investing 4-5 years in the relationship to not even change their mind.

What are some other things that you wouldn’t want to gamble on investing years with a partner on for them to never change?

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Disrespectful

I try and see things from more than one perspective always, along with being objective. As a result, I’m addressing men being disrespectful to their woman this week in this two part series.

Never Willing To Compromise

  • Some guys refuse to ever compromise, even though any successful relationship will evolve it happening sometime by both partners. Therefore, if it’s something that your lady ask you to do, be willing to put her first and oblige sometime.

Treating Your Lady Like Your Maid

  • Just because you got a lady that doesn’t mind and take pride in doing most of the household chores, you shouldn’t take advantage of her kindness by treating her like your personal maid. For instance, instead of being lazy and leaving your dirty clothes right next to the hamper, go ahead and put your clothes in it and not leave it as a task for her to do.

What are some other situations you can recall or heard about, that a man was disrespectful to his lady?

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Respect

If you want respect in life, you got to be willing to give that same amount of respect to another individual. Some women struggle with this concept as much as men. Therefore, I’ll provided some examples below of women belittling their man and plan to address men doing the same to their woman next week.

Talking To A Grown Man Like He’s Your Child

  • Just like you don’t talk to an adult like you would a baby, you shouldn’t talk to a grown man like he’s your child and emasculate him, especially in front of his friends and family, even if he’s easy going and never stands up for himself. Furthermore, you should look at your man as your equal and not as you being his superior.

Reminding Him On Regular That You Make Way More Money

  • Any self respecting and hard working man is not going to let you disrespect him on a regular, if ever for that matter, by constantly demeaning him just because you might make significantly more money than he does. Also, the only man that a woman might keep around for a while with that type of attitude is a lazy man with no self respect.

What are some other situations you can recall or heard about, which a lady belittle her man?

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Unrealistic

A conversation to set clear expectations of what you’re looking for should take place early on when you first start to talk to a person so the two of you can be on the same page. Yet, unrealistic goals can end a potential relationship before it even starts.

Relationship Ultimatum One Week After Talking

  • It’s one thing to give a person an ultimatum to decide whether they want to be in an exclusive relationship with you when the two of you been talking on a regular for about 3 months. However, it’s unrealistic to give an ultimatum in less than a week, when the person is likely to still be trying know you more, since they haven’t spent much time around you.

Demands To Become A Top Priority Almost Overnight In Their Life

  • If an individual wants to know more about you, they should be able to find a way to set aside some time for you, no matter how busy they might be. Still, you can’t expect everyone you initially meet to make it a priority overnight for their life to evolve around you. I say that because most people got key friends and family they have been knowing for years already before you entered the picture.

What are some other unrealistic goals that you feel some people set when they first start talking to someone?

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Proper Context

Be careful in taking relationship advice from an expert always, especially when he/she doesn’t know specific details about your situation. This is important for them to know so they can provide guidance in the proper context. Thus, listed below are two examples of the importance of this.

“If a man cheats, he doesn’t really care about you”

  • I want to first say I don’t condone a person cheating in a relationship ever. Yet, just because a person cheated doesn’t always mean they don’t care about you. It does mean that they’re human and made a mistake though. However, if the person has cheated multiple times, it’s a high probability they don’t care, since the same mistake shouldn’t be made over and over.

“Leave him if he refuses to stop going to the strip club”

  • It’s important to have key beliefs and values in life and not be willing to make exceptions to certain things. However, if your man going to the strip club isn’t a deal breaker, but just something you don’t like and he makes you feel like a queen and special most of the time you’re around or talking to him, I wouldn’t advise a woman to leave solely because of that.

What are some other examples of things related to relationship advice that you feel it’s important to have proper context on?

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