Your current full time job, like everything else in life will never be perfect. However, there are some things that I feel are deal breakers and key signs that it’s probably time for a job change.
1. Not being Compensated Fairly
The average person you ask, including myself will tell you that they probably should be making more at their current job. Yet, when you don’t feel like you’re being compensated fairly and have brought it up to your manager, based on whatever is the average pay of your position in the job market, it’s time to look for a new job.
2. Hate Going To Work When It’s Time
It’s one thing to had a vacation and not be looking forward to your first day back at the job. However, it’s another thing when you literally hate going to work every single day. Furthermore, this can impact your performance in doing your job in a negative way as well.
3. Not Challenge Or Stretch On A Regular
If you’re not being challenge or stretch on a regular at your job that’s an indication that you’re responsibilities aren’t growing and if your responsibilities not growing through the years, it will impact your earning power in making more money at that job in a new position opening or at a new job, especially if you’ve been doing the exact same thing(s) for years.
Some women believe in their man being the only one between the two of them that works in the household. Furthermore, some guys don’t believe in their woman working as well. However, for women that do seek a man that pays all the bills I’ll like for them to be aware of the following:
1. Some men will treat you more like their child than his equal
- There are always exceptions to the rule in any situation. Yet, when it’s only one person paying the bills in a relationship that person usually will have the only and final say in any key household decisions.
2. Can give the guy control over you in the relationship
- Some men like to take care of all the bills because it gives them more control. For instance, some guys require their lady to consult with them first before taking any money out of their joint bank account(s) that might be needed, even if it was just $40 dollars.
3. Can possibly make the guy feel more incline to do whatever he desires
- Most men aren’t able to have their lady not work these days, even if he didn’t want her to. Therefore, some guys that can afford it tend to do whatever they want in the relationship and never willing to even meet their partner half way sometime, mainly because they know the lady is dependent on them and love the lifestyle that they provide so much that’s she won’t be quick to leave, even if she’s unhappy.
Last week I covered some key signs for a man to be aware of when a woman isn’t really interested in being in an exclusive romantic relationship with him. Therefore, I’ll be covering key red flags below for a lady to be on the lookout for this week when it comes to men.
1. Shows no initiative to plan an actual date within a week
- The average man, including myself, will want to see a woman again within a week if he has just started talking with her and find her physically attracted, unless he had a prior engagement already.
2. Consistently only text or call you first late at night
- This is a clear sign that the guy is just looking to try and come over and have sex when he consistently only randomly calls or text first late at night. Also, this shows a lack of respect by him towards the lady as well.
3. Consistently doesn’t text or call you first just to say hi
- When a guy is really interested in you he will consistently call or text you randomly sometime as well just to see how your day is going and to just check up on you like you do him. Thus, if he hardly ever initiates a conversation with you then that means he’s not that into you.
When it comes to dating everybody doesn’t recognize some key signs that someone isn’t really interested or just like them only as a friend. Therefore, I touch on some red flags for a man to be aware in this blog and I’ll cover part two for ladies next week.
1. Text you back a day or more later, if at all on a regular
We all can get busy and forget or think that we texted someone back, especially in the middle of a workday. However, if a lady consistently does this, she isn’t that interested in you and probably just texting back to be nice.
2. Only responds back to you consistently when it’s related to something she wants
This kind of relates to number one but if a lady never seem to forget to respond or be too busy to talk when it comes to her trying to get something from you, but always too busy otherwise, this is an indication that she isn’t interested and clearly trying to use you as well.
3. Never able to give you an exact date or time when she is free to go on a date
If Beyonce was single and you asked her out on a date, she could tell when she is free, even if it was three weeks later, if she was truly interested in trying to go out with you.
As a result, if you have tried to take a lady out on a date on more than one random occasion and she never gets back to you with a date or time she’s free, it’s best to cut your losses and leave her alone because she’s showing through her actions or lack there of, she doesn’t want to go out with you.
Have you ever planned on calling someone and asked the individual in advance when will it be a good time to call? If yes, you probably asked that question so when you do call the person will have your undivided attention and you will have their full attention as well.
Yet, I’ve learned through the years that everybody doesn’t have the same definition of a “Good Time To Call”. As a result, if either of the following apply, then it’s probably not a good time to tell someone to call you back.
1. Constantly having to respond to someone else in a separate conversation
This is inconsiderate to do, especially if the person asked you in advance for a good time to call and reached out to you during that time frame. Also, whether it’s true or not, this can make the person you’re on the phone with feel like you’re not really wanting to talk to them.
2. Excessive Background Noise
Nobody wants to constantly have to repeat the same thing over to one person. However, when you’re trying to have a conversation with someone over the phone at a place like a game or at a sports bar, this will usually be the case, since there is so many other people either cheering or talking in the background.
I’ve heard some people say before that the dating pool becomes smaller as you get older, which I definitely think is true, but that is a good thing in my eyes since I take that as a sign that you’re just more aware of the key qualities you’re looking for a potential partner to have.
For example, the average person in their early twenties got an idea of what they want to do in life, but not really certain, since this is usually their first time living on their own, along with making key decisions. Also, this applies for them when it comes to dating in trying to figure things out as well.
Yet, the average person in their late twenties and early thirties knows what key qualities they are looking for their potential partner to have, mainly since they have been on their own for a while in life and gone through and experience some things.
As a result, the person is now able to save themselves time and easily weed out individuals they initially talk to in person or on a dating site like Tinder, without even needing to exchange numbers or go on a date with them. Furthermore, most of us will agree, including myself that we dated someone in our past while we were younger that we wouldn’t even waste our time in talking to now.
There is an old saying most of you have probably heard before, which is that misery loves company. Thus, it’s very important to distinguish if a person has your best interest at heart before you value their opinion and take advise from them, considering you are the one that has to live with the consequences of your decisions and not them.
Therefore, I’m about to discuss a couple of things to look out for that people usually do on a regular who really aren’t joyful that you’re winning or on the right path in life and doing better than them.
If a person never seem to be genuine happy or ever have anything nice to say when you achieve a major milestone in life, whether that involves you getting a promotion at your job, earning your masters degree, meeting your soul mate and getting engage, etc. these are definitely red flags. I say that because someone who has your best interest at heart should be one of your biggest fans when these type of things take place in your life and very proud, as you should be for them if the roles were reverse.
Last, an individual that always seems to point out flaws in others when someone else is speaking in high regard of the other person, even if they need to go back and find a moment that happen years in the past and the person has done so many positive things since then. This is a major red flag to me because it’s a sign of jealousy and if they do it consistency when it comes to others, rest assured they do the same to you when your name is brought up around them and you’re not present.
Most people have let a family member or friend borrow money before, with the agreement that they would be paid back on a specific day. Unfortunately, things don’t go as plan always, even if the person borrowed the money with their heart in the right place and having all intentions of paying you back fully and on time.
Thus, if you’re NOT able to answer yes to both questions I’m about to raise on the borrower, it’s probably not a good idea to lend them the money with expectations that it will be paid back on the agreed time frame. First, does the individual have a track history of paying their bills on time? If no, the chances are slim to none that he/she about to pay you back on time when the person doesn’t do that with their own money.
Next, does the person really have a plan in place to pay you back on time if you let them borrow the money? This is a legitimate question because often times the individual who needs the money only focus is that moment in time. As a result, the person usually not even thinking about two weeks later on when they do get paid in having to give you your owed amount out of that and basically being back in the same situation that has them currently trying to borrow from you.
Last, unless the person is about to receive extra money through something like an IRS tax refund, getting paid three times instead of two for a specific month at their job, or provided you with a valid plan there is a great chance you won’t see that money again no time soon if you let them borrow it.
If you’re a person that feel like you never seem to ever be able to get ahead in life, no matter what you do, I would strongly suggest that you take a close look and evaluate the people that you talk with and are around daily in your free time. It’s important to do this because if the people don’t have similar aspirations and goals in life, they can actually be hindering you from progressing, without you really recognizing it.
For instance, you can have a great job and be making great money but if the people in your close circle are needing to borrow money from you often and not paying you back fully, if at all, that can be a key factor why your bank account(s) never seem to really increase, no matter how much you continue to move up the ladder in your career.
However, if you’re around people often that inspire, motivate, and encourage you they will expand your horizon on your way of thinking, along with introducing you to new and different way of doing things that probably will help you to get ahead in life for a change.
Furthermore, if the people in your close circle motivate you then that means they already got something or things you hope to obtain, whether that is a new house they just bought, having a successful side business, being in a good space financially, or just being a positive person in general.
Finally, evaluating what you’re reading and watching on TV, Youtube, Netflix, etc. on a regular is just as important. There is nothing wrong with doing those things for enjoyment, but you want to make sure that you’re learning something that you can apply in your daily life sometime as well, since having balance is essential in everything we do.
For some people that are single Valentine’s Day can be tough, with promotions and advertising usually starting a month in advance leading up to the date and being displayed in all types of different places, from just about every aisle at a supermarket like Walmart that the person visit often to even being on local television stations like CBS, ABC, and NBC that they watch daily.
Therefore, if a person isn’t looking at things from the right perspective or hanging around positive people on a regular, they can easily find themselves being a little down, when in reality, they probably shouldn’t feel that way at all.
For example, there are some women who will have someone they consider special in their life to spend this upcoming Valentine’s Day with, but other than on special occasions they’re not being treated like a queen or a priority by that person for the other three hundred plus days in the year. Next, we live in the social media era where people get to control the narrative for the most part of what you get to view, see, and hear when it comes to their life.
As a result, the majority of people with a significant other are just showing or telling you what they want you to know about their relationship, even if things are great the majority of the time, so definitely don’t get discourage or down about that either.
Last, there are plenty of people who are very much in love and happy as well. Thus, if you’re single just remember that everybody doesn’t meet the person that is the one for them on the same timeline. Furthermore, use this time to improve your personal and professional life daily, so when you do meet that special someone you can be in a good space and know how to love them the right way, so they will want to stay in your life, even after the honeymoon phase of initial meeting is over….